ROOT of ALL things

Welcoming 2012!

2012-01-01T08:25:00.001-08:00

Happy New Year, Everyone! I love you!! Mwuahh :-)

What it's like to be away...

2009-03-17T02:00:00.000-07:00

I wanted to write this in my blog but I realized it's best to write it in here.

How I miss all of you..

JR: The person I run when I am so upset atthe world or to some people whose screwing my life. The person who always helps me make the best decision by telling me that revenge is never the answer. The person who knows most of my deepest secret and whose always this straightforward person that if he can tell me I'm a bitch , I would still gladly accept it because he's right. lol By the way, good thing that you were good enough not to say the words "mabuntis gyud ka ba" in college. cuz kuyaw ra ba ka mosturya. hahaha. Gaan gaan na imong trabaho ron paminaw sa mga babae nabilin diha. nakuhaan naka ug duha ka tunok. hehehee :D Thank you for always keeping me aware of the things that I've been doing at the same time supporting me at all times.

Maia: Who adopted me for a couple of months. Who have seen me crying for like a lot of times. I still remember that incident when she was driving from Lexmark to Ayala. hehe. Our workouts which up until now, she seems to be the only one who is able to continue doing it. She gives me the confidence that I honestly did not have and taught me to be a bully. Peace sik! She always bully me with my grammar. bwahahahah You were and still are the strongest person in the group. :D

Becky: My bestfriend and always will. I still remember when I told you that if I will ever leave the country, you will never lose a bestfriend and I mean it. I know you're one crazy person. haha. but then, I will never choose you as my Becky if you were not. It was on the same day where we both learned how to smoke. It was on that day when I got so drunk and knew you. Then we got along just fine in our years in college. The crazy things. The boys. College will not be that exciting and fun without those stupid things we did. Oh and you're the one who taught me how to do the creep walk. remember? Before we went to Halo. hehehe Ang una moinom sa tagay, do I have to say why? :D Ang kilay moments sa school. Haaay. I miss you becky.

Kim: My dearie. My soul sister. Our attitudes are so opposite but we blend so well. No conflicts just fun memories. When you're having a problem we drink to that. When I have a problem we drink to that. Simple! LOL. My enemy is your enemy. Our Videoke trip , just the two of us. It was really fun. Then we got so bored with our voices and decided to call more people. hehehe. Problems never become a problem after we two hangout together. I can't still imagine why you can be awake for a long time and not feeling tired or watch a film even for 3 straight days and still you're alive. The redhorse while studying. The mansion.

Cora: My dear cora. Since I worked at exist, you were always there to take care of me. You hate it when someone hurts me. You were and still are always on my side. Thank you for the best friendship. You are the sweetest friend I ever had. Up until now, you are still the friend I knew. You're one of those who is worth to treasure for. And believe it or not, when I am alone and lonely in here, calling you is the very first thing that come across in my head. I am lucky to have you as my friend. I am always reminded of one thing when I remember you. Your family is my family. My family is your family. I miss you talking about Coreeng. haha Funny that you're now totally a different person than that girl I saw crying at Maia's place :D How's the newspaper by the way? hehehe

Bing: Cuz. You always have your own bubble , I don't know why. I still remember how hardworking you were in college. Samot na karn sa work di naka halos magpakita ma o ka!!!! ay dapat buotan ko. hehe. Cuz, I miss you. You're one of those person na when I am asking for advices, you can give me a senseful one. hehe. Funny that even until now, even on how serious you are with everything, I can still imagine the Bing na sekreto lang ang labok. haha. peace mwuahhh.

Ipay: I know that you are always busy and all, but thank you that you were able to come to my despedida party. I can never forget our funny lines in college. Running with high heels. Same color outfits. You're fun to be with pay. Sayang we did not spend more time before I left for BG. But then, there's still next time right? :) I miss our Halo Nights. The thesis days.

Mommy: I don't have to say a lot about you. You've been in London for years na. Now that I am on the same situation as you were before, I'm looking up to you now on how strong you were to cope up with the loneliness of being far from all your friends and family. Thank you for our constant chats. For the support and for building up my confidence that everything will be just fine.

Hash: Believe it or not, you are a Keroga too :p Anyway, thank you for still being here for me. I betrayed our friendship once but still you listened and eventually I got your trust back. For all those times since I worked at Exist, our communication's still there. Even now that I am in BG, we still chika like we used to. You are the only friend that I have shed a tear on. The only friend who proves our friendship is worth keeping for when we're being put to a test. You still accept me as I am no matter what. You are a type of person that others don't have anything to say at all because you're simply a great one. Just be strong and confident okay? I still remember that time when you're shaking or that you will feel like crying when put in front of many people. I wonder if you still do that.

Each of us has different personalities. Because of that, I've learned a lot of things from each one of you. To be strong. To be a better friend. To be a good listener. and a lot of other things. You all help me to grow and become a whole person. If it's not because of you , I will never the Yanskie that I am now. I will never be able to handle the pain that life has to offer. I might have given up with all those hurtful words that others have to say to me. The group has always kept me strong all these years. Each of you has given me something and I will always be carrying it with me wherever I go. So thank you. and yes, I am writing this corny thingy because I miss all of you. ;-) and I am really wishing that all of you are here right now with me.

I'm done here! :D Mishu guys!

The Kerogas :)

2008-10-07T08:48:00.001-07:00

Pics taken during:

* Mommy's Birthday
* JR's Birthday
* Mommy's Wedding
* Deanne's Wedding

As I was scanning on my multiply albums, I noticed that we didn't actually have a lot of pictures together :(

Though we might have a lot of nightouts and parties, but there's always someone who could not join.

On the bright side, at least I found 4 pictures that all of us were there.

I miss you guys :(

Ten Ways to Marry the Wrong Person!

2008-09-09T17:35:00.000-07:00

By, Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious
mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with.

To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize 10 insights.

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after
you're married. The classic mistake! NEVER MARRY POTENTIAL!!

The Golden Rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get
married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect
people to change after their married...for the worst!" So when it comes to the
other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication
skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than
their character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it
burning.
Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in
lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's
character? Here are four characteristics to definitely check for:

Humility:
Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than
personal comfort?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other
people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be
nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give to charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable?
Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person?
Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

3. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life
goal and priorities.

There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
a) Chemistry and compatibility
b) Share common interests
c) Share common life goal.

Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing
life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together
or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're living
for while you are single-and then find someone who has come to the same
conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A
soul mate is a goal mate....two people who ultimately share the same
understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same priorities,
values and goals.

4. You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper emotional
connection. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not,
ask:

"Do I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I
impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect
someone because they own a Mercedes.

Yes, you should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty,
determination, etc., but do you actually respect and admire this person
who possesses these qualities? Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also
means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?

5. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you
don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions:

Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express
myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this
person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say
because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid
to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with
the relationship. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the
other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an
abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change
you. There is a big difference between "controlling" and "making
suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is
made for their benefit.

6. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the
table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for
discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate
how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the
course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know
now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find
compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the person know
what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you
can be with this person. If you can't be vulnerable, you can't be intimate.The
two go hand in hand.

7. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape
from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you'll
probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix
personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will
exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take
responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better and your
future spouse will thank you.

8. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too
quickly. This can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest
exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud one's
mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions. It is not
necessary to "test drive" in order to find out if a couple are sexually
compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are
intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don't have to worry about
sexual compatibility. Of all the studies on divorce, sexual
incompatibility is never cited as a main reason why people divorce.

9. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what
a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs and more often
than not, it is the man who just doesn't get it. Jewish tradition places the
onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of the woman and to satisfy
them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved. -To feel that she is the most
important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her
consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to
sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs
of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal
oriented especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed
out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience oriented. When
a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will
discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own
needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things will happen.

10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or
something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who
hasn't separated from his or her parents is a classic example of
triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as
work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful ! that you and
your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in a triangle cannot be
fully emotionally available to you. You'll not be their number one priority.
And that's not basis for a marriage.

Ability is what you're capable of doing.............
Motivation determines what youdo...................
Attitude determines how well you do it!

''If someone has done you wrong, do not repay him with a wrong. Try to do what
everyone considers to be good ''

Marriage!

2008-08-26T23:25:00.000-07:00

Since, this is a keroga-related story. Decided to post it in here ;-)

I was talking to one of the kerogas today. The topic: MARRIAGE. Yeah yeah. I know it's not even unusual for me since I am already married.

The exciting part of the conversation was that they were going out for less than a month, but they already talk about their future and all. Then i remember something. The first keroga married her boyfriend before they even had their first anniversary. I, on the other hand, got engaged even just months of being together. So, what's new on our group???

So when we were having this conversation, it didn't actually come to a shock for me about their plans.

Many people have said that in marriage, you need to know the person first, you both should take more time to be with each other longer before stepping in to marriage. That might be true. But I don't actually believe it.

Funny that my longest relationship lasted for 4 years and same goes with the first one who got married. But why, for those years, marriage was never even in our minds. Yeah maybe we were young but that is still not the point. I even had other ex boyfriends after that 4yr relationship, but still, marriage never came in my mind.

Honestly, it's never the years that you've known each other to plan for a future together. It's on how you are actually feeling when you're with him.

It always come to a point in your life when you just wake up one day and made a life changing decision. It's when you think why up until now, you both have no reasons to fight with. It's when you just realize that you have to change for someone not because he wants you to change. and even if the whole world might be against you, your relationship never shakes even a bit.

Love comes unexpectedly, same goes when deciding to get married. Even now when I look back on what made me decide to get married, my heart will just answer me with another question saying.... what reasons should you not marry him? :)

2008-08-22T19:57:00.000-07:00

The Kerogas! (from friendster comments hihi)

2008-02-04T15:49:00.000-08:00

may i present to u d roots..

JR - "ROOT-of-all-ROOTs"..master ni namo! until now libog pa jd ni cya unsa jd na "flower"..ateh ako nlng lagi!

MAIA - "ROOT-of-all-DUDINGs"...ni bloom na ni cya and still blooming pa jd! practicing her capacities!

IPAY- "ROOT-of-all-RISKs"..saint ni cya sa mga risk-takers! our mentor sa inom! yaw na palag!

LOVELY - "ROOT-of-all-TANTRUMs"... libog ni cya! ky basta tantrums ma feel jd dayon tanang klase na sakit sa lawas!

CORA- "ROOT-of-all-GALOREs"...galore ma inlove,mostorya,mokatawa and all! todo na ni ateh!

KIM- "ROOT-of-all- LIVE-IN THINGS"..ayy "living things diay"! basta sabot namo ato! peace kim!

BING- "ROOT-of-all-BUTTERFLIEs"... basta huwat lng mi when jd cya mo gawas sa iya cocoon! unleashing her other side!

DEANNE- "ROOT-of-all-MARKERs".. kani jd cya! bar or streetside or sakyanan or bukid or city or dagat...gitatakan na ani niya! iba ka!

KAI-"ROOT-of-all-SENIORS"...She started everything and the model of all root coz if she was a fruit she is already ripe, If ungo ni siya then Mangtas na! if you want to determine how ROOT you are then she is the perfect tape measure!!!

Kerogas @ Singapore

2008-02-02T15:45:00.000-08:00

22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship © Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.

2008-02-02T15:24:00.000-08:00

Relationships are often hard to maintain, even when two people profess undying love for each other. A major problem in a relationship is that one or both partners continue to make the same errors but then cannot understand why the relationship is in trouble. It is almost as though they are determined to do things their way, even at the risk of damaging a good thing.

In my clinical practice, I have discovered at least 22 errors in thinking and communicating that people make, which if repeated, have the potential of destroying a relationship. Which of the following errors are you making?

1) Rigidly maintain that you are always right, even when you do not have all the facts!

2) Never apologize, even when you are proven wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt!

3) Be relentless in rubbing it in when you are proven right!

4) Dogmatically maintain that you know your partner's motives better than he or she does!

5) Assume that your partner should understand your needs and should respond immediately without being asked!

6) Totally ignore your partner's priorities and insist on your own!

7) Operate on the assumption that your partner's sexual need cycle is identical to yours!

8) Add deep psychological meaning to your partner's sexual disinterest, and take it very personally!

9) Do not ever admit hurt, but go immediately to the expression of anger!

10) Identify your partner's character flaws and family secrets and use them to make a point when logic fails!

11) Use guilt to manipulate, to get your own way or to punish!

12) Become proficient at catching your partner being bad, but do not ever comment if you catch him or her being good!

13) Cut no slack, yield no ground and push your argument until your partner walks out the door... then follow the coward!

14) Do not let go of the past, rehashing your version of it as often as possible!

15) Cling very very tightly, claiming that you will surly die if you are ignored!

16) If you are not a clinger, then stay emotionally/physically distant, and show no signs that you really care for your partner!

17) Make promises, but never keep them!

18) Be factious so you partner never knows when you are being serious!

19) Always make excuses for your bad habits!

20) Insist that what you have to say is always more important that what your partner is saying, so interrupt!

21) Pretend that you understand what you partner has said, even if you have no idea of the point that was being made!

22) Act as though you do none of the above and it is your partner who must make all the changes!

2008-02-02T07:08:00.000-08:00

you can't SCARE us!!! we TEACH
don't challenge the OBVIOUS
thinkers are the doers
we don't give a DAMN
if tomorrow never comes
don't hate the PLAYER, hate the GAME
life is too short, BRANCH out!
dont populate the world
If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives
Life is just one damned thing after another.
Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.
Dont just drink and drive. You should smoke and fly.
if you cant beat them, change the topic!
We dont just take NO for an answer
We fall in love, we fall out of love. accept it, live with it
if you havent taken the risks, then you havent tried at all.
dont waste our time or well waste yours.
to find a bOyfriEnd is an aRt .to hOld him is a jOB!!!
ALL WoRk and NO PlAy. is totally misSiNg the pOiNt!!!
i live in such a way that those who know me but do not know God will come to know God because they know me